Men are expected to behave a certain way, mostly through display of toughness, virility, financial independence, control and violence, thus creating a sheer disregard for the “Other,” which comprises traits that fall under or relate to passivity, dependence and the usual warm, fuzzy feelings.
However, these rigid structures on “how to be a man” all seems too good to be true. In Hollywood cinema, movies like Dirty Harry (1972), The Godfather (1972), Scarface (1983), and Die Hard (1988) all have an archetypal “guy’s guy” as main characters, who are, one way or another, involved in some kind of assault, violence and a sheer display of macho aggression.
Manhood in contemporary society really takes a lot of work and I think it is somehow in need of a rescue. At least, from a huge potential of manslaughter (pun intended) due to people’s obsessive, exaggerated and ridiculous expectations.
Fortunately though, there are some men who believe that they can actually enjoy a much deeper relationship with fellow men without any fear of judgment and trepidation. Victor Seidler of The Achilles Heel Reader: Men, Sexual Politics and Socialism said that it is possible for men to change, to develop different kinds of relationships (especially with themselves), while seeking an alternative to “the shoulds” that they are constantly putting upon themselves.
But since I do not want to bore with you with the whole scholastic schmuck, I would like to prove how men can still enjoy the warm, fuzzy feelings with each other, without appearing too queer and homoerotic, with my top 8 bromances in TV, sports and movies over the years.
8. Ryan Atwood and Seth Cohen (The O.C.)
Seth: You know what I mean?
Ryan: Hardly ever.
The OC would not be as popular and successful during its heydays without the two main protagonists in Ryan Atwood (played by Benjamin McKenzie) and Seth Cohen (Adam Brody) who were distinctly different from each other but who got along very well. Their relationship was borne out of a stereotypical relationship between two bros in most media portrayals, where one is an alpha brooding male who’s got the macho and mystery vibe that works best with the ladies; and the other, a more laid-back, usually smarter and funnier guy who is more content with being the wingman in the relationship (and who often gets a hot girl or two in the process.)
Bromance power trademark: A healthy mixture of brains and brawn.